It's Okay If I Eat This Because We're in a Pandemic

Does the following sound familiar?

“I’m letting myself eat whatever I want right now because we’re experiencing a global crisis. But once this is over, I’m not going to eat this way anymore.”

If you can relate to this, it’s completely understandable. It’s how diet culture has conditioned us to think.

Only Under Special Circumstances
Diet culture tells us we’re only allowed to eat certain foods under special circumstances.

It makes us believe that it’s okay to eat cake at a weekend birthday party but not on a regular ol’ Tuesday.

It drives us to think we can eat whatever we want on vacation as long as we get back on track once we’re home.

It tells us we can eat our forbidden "bad" foods during a pandemic, yet they must become off-limits again once it passes.

And, it's all a bunch of B.S. The truth is:

You have the right to eat all the available chips, cookies, brownies and bread you desire today—and every day of the year.

You don’t need a special reason, other than it’s what you want.

Diet Mentality vs. Non-Diet Mentality
If you’re feeling the need to justify your food choices during this challenging time (or at any time), you’re likely operating from a deeply ingrained diet mentality—one that includes a lot of rules and beliefs regarding what’s okay and not okay when it comes to eating.

Your experience is much different than if you’re operating from a non-diet mentality—that is, if you’re eating intuitively.

If you’re an Intuitive Eater, you truly know you have unconditional permission to eat whatever you want, whenever you want and however much you want (of course, depending on what food is currently accessible to you).

You don’t feel the need to give yourself special permission to eat certain foods during certain times because you know you can eat them anytime they’re available.

As a result, you don’t have a pandemic permission list.

It’s Okay Now—and Later
If your eating feels off-kilter right now, I encourage you to have compassion for yourself. The entire world is off-kilter right now, so it makes sense that your eating would feel this way too.

If you find yourself thinking “It’s okay if I eat this because we’re in a pandemic,” you are right. It is absolutely okay.

If you want to move toward greater peace, ease and freedom with your eating, you can start by following this thought with “It’s also okay for me to eat this when we’re not in a pandemic.” Because it is. 

Are You Fixating A Lot On Your Body These Days?

Are you fixating on your body a lot these days?

Do you have a strong urge to diet and lose weight?

Or maybe you’re afraid of gaining weight.

If so, it makes sense.

When life feels out of your control, when you’re feeling anxious, scared and helpless, it’s human nature to search for something that gives you a sense of control.

In the beginning of the COVID-19 pandemic, stocking your pantry and cupboards with multiple weeks worth of food and personal care products likely made you feel a bit in control—something we’re all grasping for right now as we try to navigate this life-altering global crisis that is largely out of our control.

But now that we’re a few weeks in and still facing an unprecedented level of uncertainty, it’s understandable to seek other things that give you the illusion of control.

For you and many others, this might mean trying to control your eating and your body.

Okay Body, Okay Life
Like shopping and stockpiling, focusing on your weight feels accessible, doable and reassuring. If you have a history of dieting, it's an especially calming, familiar place to turn to when faced with so many unknowns. 

Diet culture, after all, has conditioned us to believe—from a very young age and without our consent—that if we can just control our eating and our weight and feel good about our body then everything will be okay and life will be easier.

So it’s completely understandable why you would fixate on your body as a way to cope with the difficult, distressing and overwhelming emotions you’re likely experiencing right now.

Not Really in Our Control
Yet, despite what diet culture has led us to believe, we do not have complete control over the size and shape of our body.

It’s not simply a matter of “eat less and exercise more.”

The human body isn't that simplistic.

Your weight is impacted by multiple complex factors, including your genetics, environment, and social and economic conditions.

And research shows that the vast majority of people who lose weight eventually gain it back, and many gain back more than they lost.

If this has been your experience, it’s not because you failed or lack willpower and self-discipline.

When you deprive your body of food, it thinks it's being subjected to a famine and will do everything it can to survive. This includes triggering numerous compensatory processes, such as hormonal changes that increase your appetite and decrease your metabolism

Weight-Neutral, Sustainable Self-Care
So rather than focus on something that is short-lived, unsustainable, exhausting and potentially harmful to your physical and psychological wellbeing, I encourage you to direct your precious time, energy and headspace toward more meaningful, fulfilling pursuits.

This includes weight-neutral, sustainable and pleasurable self-care practices that help you ride this emotional roller coaster with greater ease and feel better in your here-and-now body.

I also encourage you to be compassionate, gentle and patient with yourself.

Times are tough. Trust that you’re doing the best you can.

If you're struggling and would like support, please feel free to reach out. Thankfully, I'm still able to support my clients via video during this challenging time.

Does Your Eating Feel Off-Kilter?

On the day the coronavirus shelter-in-place mandate was announced for San Francisco, I couldn’t remember eating my lunch.

I looked down at my plate and saw crumbs but no food.

The evidence was clear: I had finished my meal. Yet, I was so anxious and distracted, I didn’t recall eating it.

Over the past few days, I’ve also noticed myself eating faster than usual and stockpiling my favorite bread (my ultimate comfort food).

And, I’ve been frequently craving chocolate-chunk ice cream, chocolate donuts and chocolate-chip cookies—all foods that remind me of the ease and simplicity of my childhood.

Has your eating been feeling off-kilter lately, too?

Perhaps it feels scattered, mindless, chaotic or urgent.

Maybe you’re reaching for foods you typically don’t go for. Or eating at odd times for you or eating more than you usually do.

Whether driven by fear, anxiety, stress, sadness, loneliness or boredom, your emotional eating may feel like it’s in overdrive right now.

If this is your experience, please know IT’S COMPLETELY OKAY.

There is nothing wrong with you or with your eating.

A Wise Coping Strategy
There are always very valid reasons why we do what we do when it comes to food.

Using food to navigate difficult emotions is completely understandable and a much-needed coping mechanism during times of distress.

Diet culture has conditioned us to view emotional eating as a bad thing, as a sign of weakness, a lack of willpower, something we must hide, fix or make up for.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

It’s actually a very wise strategy in that the act of eating can be very grounding, soothing and relaxing. It helps calm your nervous system.

It also provides refuge, a safe and secure place to go to when you’re feeling overwhelmed and not sure where to turn or what to do.

Self-Compassion is Key
Rather than feeling like your eating is out of control, beating yourself up for eating “badly” and nose-diving into a shame spiral, which is highly likely if you have a history of dieting and food restriction, I encourage you to practice self-compassion by reminding yourself that emotional eating is a form of self-care.

It’s an easy way to meet your needs, a way to soothe, comfort and take care of yourself when life is hard.

And, with all the uncertainty, disruption and loss right now, life is really, really hard.

So, please, take care of yourself however you can.

Pause and Check In
You might find it helpful to pause and check in with yourself throughout the day. Ask yourself: What am I feeling? What do I need?

Consider what would feel the most nourishing, comforting, calming and grounding.

Maybe it is eating a bowl of ice cream or bag of chips.

Maybe it’s baking cookies, walking in the park, escaping into a book, listening to the birds, cooking a pot of soup, napping in the sunshine, or finding a quiet spot to pray or meditate.

Maybe it’s a combination of things.

Whatever it is, trust it’s exactly what you need.

If you're struggling and would like support, please feel free to reach out. Thankfully, I'm still able to support my clients via video during this challenging time.